Dominatrix Is Not Code For Mind Reader
In the Femdom world, a Dominatrix hears a lot of requests. Some of them mild, some of them extreme. But the one that none of us want to hear is…
“Goddess I want to be dominated! Control me!”
The second any Dominant Women hears this we ALL do an internal AND external eye roll. Trust me. You might be thinking, “but isn’t that what you enjoy? Isn’t that your job?”
Well yes. Indeed it is. But, lets look at this from a different angle. Say you’ve been driving your car and your ‘change oil’ light comes on. Aware that something needs to fixed, you take it into a shop. Awesome. Do you just drive up to a shop, pull your car up, find a mechanic and go “My car needs to be fixed! Fix it!”
No, you don’t.
Typically you would explain to the mechanic that your light came on and you’re there for that reason. You don’t expect them to just magically know you need an oil change when there are so many things they fix in a day. Do you see what I’m getting at?
Be specific
Telling a Dominatrix to dominate or control you without any knowledge or what you’re looking for or what your into is much like telling a mechanic to just “fix” your car. It doesn’t work! If you’re contacting us chances are we have a hunch that you’re into domination of some sort… so you really don’t need to state it. But we aren’t mind readers. You know that pretty much ANYTHING can be a fetish and that leaves a lot of room for error if we are left to just guess.
Example: Sissification/Forced bi and Financial Domination are two of my favorite fetishes. Say I get a caller who simply states “Miss Blair control me. I want to be your slave and do whatever you say!” Great! So I say “Well then get on your knees and get ready to suck this big cock for me while I take everything out your wallet.”
Now, I’m turned on…but they’re on the other end disappointed because they wanted to suck my toes and worship my ass. Now its awkward and we have to start over. Do you see where this causes issues?
If you try to make us guess what you want, odds are you are going to irritate us and not get the experience that you hoped for. You like ass? Say it. Are you a sissy bitch for BBC? Say it. Are you new to Femdom but like the thought of getting thrown over a knee and spanked? Say it. We don’t need a speech on every fetish you’ve been curious about since grade school, but a brief introduction of what you like can help us both get what we want!
